Ep. 89 How to Know When You’ve Met “The One.” Plus, Ghosting During Corona Q&A - Dr. Karin Anderson Abrell - Love and Life Podcast

Ep. 89 How to Know When You’ve Met “The One.” Plus, Ghosting During Corona Q&A

Growing up I used to ask my mom, “How will I know when I’ve met the right guy?” She replied with the answer so many of us heard, “You’ll just know.” But HOW do we “just know”? Will our hearts lead us in the right direction? What if our heart says, “Yes” but our head says, “No!” And, considering I almost married the wrong person (I called off my first engagement 2 months before the wedding #runawaybride), I apparently didn’t “just know.” That being said, I now have a unique vantage point—having been engaged to the wrong person and then engaged to the right one! To further explore this question, Dan joins me to discuss how we knew we were right for each other. We also examine psychologist Dr. Robert Sternberg’s Triangle Theory of Love which provides the most comprehensive model of what Sternberg calls “Consummate Love” and what others call “the total package.” We wrap up the program answering a listener’s question about being ghosted by her boyfriend. Should she reach out? They’d had “the talk” about being exclusive! Isn’t she owed an explanation?

  1. […] Another idea would be to schedule a “state of the union” meeting in which you two reflect on where you are and where you’re headed. A great framework to undergird this conversation is Dr. Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love which identifies the 3 elements people desire in partnership—intimacy (friendship), commitment (fidelity), and passion (sexual chemistry). In discussing this model, you’ll touch on each of these components which will provide an organic opportunity to examine the one that’s currently lacking in your relationship—passion. I share more about Sternberg’s model in episode 89 of my podcast Love & Life. […]

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